| Speaking up and
asking questions at a meeting |
___________
|
Commenting about
being interrupted by a male
directly to him at the moment he interrupts you |
___________ |
Stating your
views to a male authority figure,
e.g. boss, minister, therapist, father |
___________ |
Attempting to
offer solutions and elaborating on them
when there are men present |
___________ |
| Your
Body |
|
Entering and
exiting a room where men are present
|
___________ |
| Speaking in front
of a group |
___________ |
Maintaining eye
contact, keeping your head upright,
and leaning forward when in a personal
conversation |
___________ |
| Your
Mind |
|
Going out with
group of friends when you are the
only one without a `date’ |
___________ |
Being especially
competent, using your authority
and/or power without labelling yourself as
"bitchy",
impolite, bossy, aggressive, castrating, or
parental |
___________ |
Requesting
expected service when you haven’t
received it, e.g. in a restaurant or store |
___________ |
| Apology |
|
Being expected to
apologize for something and not
apologizing since you feel you are right |
___________ |
Requesting the
return of borrowed items without
being apologetic |
___________ |
| Compliments,
Criticism and Rejection |
|
Receiving a
compliment by saying something
assertive to acknowledge that you agree with
the person complimenting you |
___________ |
| Accepting a
rejection |
___________
|
Not getting the
approval of the most significant
male in your life, and /or any male |
___________ |
Discussing
another person’s criticism of you
openly with that person |
___________ |
Telling someone
that he/she is doing something
that is bothering you |
___________ |
| Saying
`No’ |
|
Refusing to get
coffee or to take notes at a meeting where
you are chosen to do so because you are a female |
___________ |
Saying `No’
-- refusing to do a favour when you really
don’t feel like it |
___________ |
| Turning down a
request for a meeting or a date |
___________ |
| Manipulation
and Counter-Manipulation |
|
| Telling a person
when you think she/he is manipulating you |
___________
|
Commenting to a
male who has made a patronizing
remark to you, (e.g. "you have a good job
for a woman",
"you’re not flighty, emotional, stupid
or hysterical
like most women") |
___________ |
| Anger |
|
| Expressing anger
directly and honesty when you feel angry |
___________
|
| Arguing with
another person |
___________
|
| Humour |
|
| Telling a joke |
___________
|
Listening to a
friend tell a story about something
embarrassing but funny that you have done |
___________ |
| Responding with
humour to someone’s put-down of you |
___________
|
| Children |
|
| Disciplining your
own children |
___________
|
| Disciplining
other’s children |
___________
|
| Explaining the
facts of life or your divorce to your child |
___________
___________ |
| Women
Together |
|
Talking about
your feelings of competition with another
woman with whom you feel competitive |
___________ |
